Rewriting the Rules

Author: Meg John Barker
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1351699733
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but break-up after break-up leave us bruised and confused. Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse, rather than better? This new edition, updated throughout, considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways - for example in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or child-care make complete separation impossible. This book considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.

Rewriting the Rules

Author: Meg Barker
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 0415517621
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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We live in a time of great uncertainty about relationships. We search for "The One," but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. The reality of our relationships is not what we expected, and it becomes hard to balance it with all the other things that we want out of life. At the same time that marriage shows itself to be the one 'recession proof' industry; the rates of separation and break-up soar ever higher. Rewriting the Rules is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - rules of love: the advice that is given about attraction and sex, monogamy and conflict, gender and commitment. It asks questions such as: which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? This book considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways, for example the 'new monogamy', alternative commitment ceremonies, different ways of understanding gender, and new ideas for managing conflict and break-up where economics and child-care make complete separation a problem. In this way Rewriting the Rules gives the power to the reader to find the approach which fits their situation.

Rewriting the Rules

Author: Meg Barker
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1136223673
Format: PDF
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We live in a time of great uncertainty about relationships. We search for "The One," but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. The reality of our relationships is not what we expected, and it becomes hard to balance it with all the other things that we want out of life. At the same time that marriage shows itself to be the one 'recession proof' industry; the rates of separation and break-up soar ever higher. Rewriting the Rules is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - rules of love: the advice that is given about attraction and sex, monogamy and conflict, gender and commitment. It asks questions such as: which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? This book considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways, for example the 'new monogamy', alternative commitment ceremonies, different ways of understanding gender, and new ideas for managing conflict and break-up where economics and child-care make complete separation a problem. In this way Rewriting the Rules gives the power to the reader to find the approach which fits their situation.

Sexuality and Gender for Mental Health Professionals

Author: Christina Richards
Publisher: SAGE
ISBN: 1446293130
Format: PDF, ePub
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Questions of sexuality and gender affect everyone and therefore have an inevitable relevance in the consulting room. Yet with interpretations and manifestations of both varying greatly from person to person, understanding the inherent complexities of sexuality and gender can be a daunting task for the health professional. Breaking down these complexities this practical guide familiarises the reader with all of the common and many of the less common sexualities, genders and relationship forms, and explains experiences and issues relating to each. The book contains: -Explanations of various forms of sexuality, gender and relationship structures -Common concerns relating to specific groups -Key practises relating to specific groups -The treatment of specific groups in contemporary Western society -Details of some rules and ideals that are commonly found within specific groups -Suggestions for professional practice with these groups Ideal for all members of the multidisciplinary team, this accessible book is relevant to practitioners across theoretical backgrounds. Whether you are a trainee or qualified psychotherapist, counsellor, nurse, medic, psychiatrist, social worker or applied psychologist, this is a vital text for your professional practice. CHRISTINA RICHARDS is Senior Specialist Psychology Associate at the West London Mental Health NHS Trust (Charing Cross) Gender Identity Clinic. MEG BARKER is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a sex and relationship therapist.

The Secrets of Enduring Love

Author: Meg John Barker
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 1473528089
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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The Secrets of Enduring Love focuses on what couples actually do to maintain, nurture and nourish their relationships. The reader will be taken on a journey through different ways of doing relationships, focusing on the key themes which came out of the research: everyday acts of kindness and appreciation; the importance of home; communication and conflict management; sex and intimacy; incorporating others into the relationship (children, pets, friends, hobbies); and telling your own love story. One of the key messages from the research is that different things work for different people, and at different times in the relationship. For this reason the book focuses on the differnt practices that we might bring into our own relationships, helping us to recognise the small things which we may be already doing but which ordinarily go by unnoticed, and offering a helping hand to find out what works best for us.

Friendship

Author: Daniel J. Hruschka
Publisher: Univ of California Press
ISBN: 0520265467
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"Hruschka's integrative approach provides a robust, and accessible, view of the complexities of making, having, and being friends. This kind of inquiry is at the forefront of modern biocultural anthropology."--Agustin Fuentes, author of Evolution of Human Behavior "Despite its importance to human happiness and well-being, friendship has long been a puzzle--largely a neglected one--for evolutionary scholars. Daniel Hruschka's book is a long overdue remedy to this situation. Through a deft combination of rigorous analysis and fine writing, Hruschka provides a thorough examination of friendship across the full range of human societies, past and present. His book will be an essential starting point for future work on this important topic."--Lee Cronk, author of That Complex Whole: Culture and the Evolution of Human Behavior "With Friendship, Dan Hruschka uses evolutionary science to breathe new life into a topic that is vastly important and woefully misunderstood. Remarkable for its scope, insightfulness, and clarity, this book will change how we think about friendship for years to come."--Michael McCullough, author of Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct

Opening Love

Author: Dr. Anya
Publisher: John Hunt Publishing
ISBN: 1782799516
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Love, sex, and relationship wisdom from the polyamory movement are offered in this practical guide to spiritual enlightenment. Contrary to popular belief, monogamy and celibacy are not the only two options for exploring a spiritual path. In Opening Love, Dr. Anya translates the lessons learned by the pioneers of the polyamory (many loves) movement for readers who actively pursue personal growth through spiritual practice. Drawing on both personal experience and philosophical reflection, this nonfiction guide explains how to cultivate intentional, creative, non-conventional relationships that center on principles of honesty and consent. Instead of committing solely to a single person, spiritual seekers can instead commit to pursuing openness and courage in all their interactions. As polyamorists understand: love, sex, and relationships are not scarce commodities, rather they are an abundant resource for healing and evolving one's consciousness. With eloquence and precision, Dr. Anya describes how to cultivate compersion (the opposite of jealousy), find an intentional community based on common core values, and build advanced emotional and communication skills. Meditation and reflection practices are offered throughout, to create an interactive, truly transformative learning experience.

Sexual Outsiders

Author: David M. Ortmann
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1442217359
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Sexual Outsiders looks at the challenges and experiences of those in the BDSM community and explores the erotic and psychological landscape of this often misunderstood culture, concepts of power, personal growth, overcoming challenges, and forming communities.

Love s Refraction

Author: Jillian Deri
Publisher: University of Toronto Press
ISBN: 1442628693
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In Love's Refraction, Jillian Deri explores the distinctive question of how and why polyamorists – people who practice consensual non-monogamy – manage jealousy. Her focus is on the polyamorist concept of “compersion” – taking pleasure in a lover's other romantic and sexual encounters.

Understanding Non Monogamies

Author: Meg Barker
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 113519629X
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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Most social scientific work on intimate relationships has assumed a monogamous structure, or has considered anything other than monogamy only in the context of 'infidelity'. Yet, in recent years there has been a growing interest among researchers and the public in exploring various patterns of intimacy that involve open non-monogamy. This volume gathers contributions from academics, activists, and practitioners throughout the world to explore non-monogamous relationships. Featuring both empirical and theoretical pieces, contributors examine the history and cultural basis of various forms of non-monogamy, experiences of non-monogamous living, psychological understandings of relationship patterns, language and emotion, the discursive construction of mono-normativity as well as issues of race, class, disability, sexuality and gender. This volume will be of interest to academics and practitioners working in the social sciences and anyone who is seeking greater insight into the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships.