Self Within Marriage

Author: Richard M. Zeitner
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1136843086
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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Self Within Marriage combines the theoretical orientations of object-relations theory, self psychology, and systems theory as a way of understanding and working with couples and individuals whose relationship and emotional difficulties have centered on the common conundrum of balancing individuality and intimacy. Based on detailed case examples and couple therapy techniques, Self Within Marriage provides individual and couple therapists with a refreshing new framework for working with clients and for helping them understand who they are as individuals and as partners.

The Self Under Siege

Author: Robert W. Firestone
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1136332553
Format: PDF, Kindle
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How much of our identity or 'self' is truly representative of our own wants, needs, and goals in life and how much does it reflect the desires and priorities of someone else? Are we following our own destiny or are we unconsciously repeating the lives of our parents, living according to their values, ideals, and beliefs? In this thought-provoking book, noted clinical psychologist Robert Firestone and his co-authors explore the struggle that all of us face in striving to retain a sense of ourselves as unique individuals. The self is under siege from several sources: primarily pain and rejection in the developmental years, problems in relationships, detrimental societal forces, and existential realities that affect all people. Through numerous case studies and personal stories from men and women who participated in a 35-year observational study, the authors illustrate how voice therapy, a cognitive/affective/behavioral methodology pioneered by Firestone, is used to elicit, identify, and challenge the destructive inner voice and to change aversive behaviors based on its prescriptions. The theory they describe integrates the psychodynamic and existential approaches underlying voice therapy and is enriched by research findings in the neurosciences, attachment research, and terror management theory (TMT). An important addition to the area of personality development theory, The Self under Siege offers a new perspective on differentiation and the battle to separate ourselves from the chains of the past. It provides psychotherapists and other mental health professionals with the tools needed to help clients differentiate from the dysfunctional attitudes and toxic personality traits of their parents, other family members, and harmful societal influences that have unconsciously dominated their lives. This book will have a special appeal to clients and, in fact, to any person interested in his/her own personal development

Psychoanalytic Couple Therapy

Author: David E. Scharff
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 0429917902
Format: PDF, Kindle
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In this time of vulnerable marriages and partnerships, many couples seek help for their relationships. Psychoanalytic couple therapy is a growing application of psychoanalysis for which training is not usually offered in most psychoanalytic and analytic psychotherapy programs.This book is both an advanced text for therapists and a primer for new students of couple psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Its twenty-eight chapters cover the major ideas underlying the application of psychoanalysis to couple therapy, many clinical illustrations of cases and problems in various dimensions of the work. The international group of authors comes from the International Psychotherapy Institute based in Washington, DC, and the Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships (TCCR) in London. The result is a richly international perspective that nonetheless has theoretical and clinical coherence because of the shared vision of the authors.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 1101902914
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

Relationship Matters

Author: Guy Grimes
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781548074685
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Long-lasting relationships are struggling in the church and throughout all American walks of life. The divorce rate has been declining over the past ten years, but only because there are fewer marriages. People are insecure and tentative when it comes to long-term relationships and marriage commitment. There are fewer and fewer examples of healthy relationships and truly happy marriages.

Loving Bravely

Author: Alexandra H. Solomon
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1626255830
Format: PDF, Kindle
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As seen on The TODAY Show! “A godsend to anyone searching for, but struggling to find, true love in their lives.” —Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion "Empowering and compassionate, and its lessons are universal." —Publishers Weekly Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love. Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we’ve selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven’t done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We’ve all heard “You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself,” but amid life’s distractions and the myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that? In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you’ll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself, you’ll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection. By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner—you’ll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires.

The Marriage Counseling Workbook

Author: Emily Cook
Publisher: Althea Press
ISBN: 9781623159870
Format: PDF, Mobi
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This is what couples say to Dr. Emily Cook when they acknowledge that in order to fix the problems in their marriage, they need help. This may be where you are right now, too. And no matter how you're feeling-hopeful, anxious, hurt, frustrated, tired, ready for change-the guidance offered in this book will bring clarity, comfort, and change for both you and your spouse. Drawing on more than a decade of experience counseling couples at all stages of marriage. Dr. Cook brings you The Marriage Counseling Workbook-an 8-step program for restoring your marriage to a place of health and connection. Similar to what you'd find in real-life sessions with Dr. Cook, this self-guided marriage counseling journey helps you identify what is causing you pain in your marriage, learn how to alleviate it, and confidently prevent it in the future. Gain Insight into Your Marital Struggles, by learning about the most common challenges couples face and how they affect your relationship, Better Understand Yourself and Your Partner, through thought-provoking questions and evaluations, Learn to Work Through Problems and Find Solutions with a 8-step structure that includes practical, results-oriented exercises Book jacket.

Love Sex and Lasting Relationships Study Guide

Author: Chip Ingram
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781605930312
Format: PDF, ePub
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Even "true love" can fizzle with time, but it doesn't have to be that way. What is God's prescription for enhancing your love life? The author provides a road map to successful, loving and joyful loving relationships. Whether single, single again or wanting more from mariage, you can begin the delightful journey toward a lasting, loving relationship. This practical, insightful book shows how.

Love in the Present Tense

Author: Morrie Shechtman
Publisher: Bull Publishing Company
ISBN: 1936693321
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Drawing on their expertise on personal growth in the workplace and from their experience with couples in their popular workshops, Morrie and Arleah Shechtman present a new approach that challenges common notions about what makes a good marriage work. They recognize that myths about marriage often lead people to aim for unrealistic ideals. Examining eight myths about relationships—including “Love will carry you through the hard times,” “You need to work on your relationship if you want it to be good,” and “Spending lots of time together is very important”—the book also presents contrasting realities to help strengthen the bond. For those working to build a relationship or struggling to hold one together, this book provides powerful new ways to overcome old behaviors and create a new connection that springs from a shared understanding of one another's needs.