The Primal Wound

Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
Publisher: British Association for Adoption & Fostering(BAAF)
ISBN: 9781905664764
Format: PDF
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Originally published in 1993, this classic piece of literature on adoption has revolutionised the way people think about adopted children. Nancy Verrier examines the life-long consequences of the 'primal wound' - the wound that is caused when a child is separated from its mother - for adopted people. Her argument is supported by thorough research in pre- and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and the effects of loss.

The Primal Wound

Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
Publisher: Nancy Verrier
ISBN: 9780963648006
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THE PRIMAL WOUND: UNDERSTANDING THE ADOPTED CHILD, by Nancy Verrier, is a challenging and courageous work. A book which adoptees call their "bible," it is a must read for anyone connected with adoption: adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, therapists, educators and attorneys. Dr. Thomas Verny, author of THE SECRET LIFE OF THE UNBORN CHILD, calls it "the best psychodynamic study of adoptees ever undertaken...tremendously helpful to those who really want to understand their psychological process." In its application of information about perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and loss, THE PRIMAL WOUND clarifies the effects of separation from the birthmother on adopted children. In addition, it gives adoptees, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as well as explanations for their behavior. As one adoptee said, "Only one thing has caused me more pain and damage than the existence of the primal wound: the world's insistence that it does not exist." The existence of the primal wound and suggestions for healing that wound are intelligently and compassionately set forth in this book, which is fast becoming the quintessential work about the complex and life-long process of adoption. The insight the author brings to the experience of abandonment and loss will contribute not only to the healing of those connected with adoption, but will bring understanding and encouragement to anyone who has ever felt abandoned. To order Contact: Nancy Verrier, publisher, P.O. Box 208, Lafayette, CA 94549. 925-284-5813, Fax 925-284-4248. Bookstores receive a 40% discount when ordering directly from publisher. Also available from Baker and Taylor and Ingram.

Coming Home to Self

Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781905664818
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Although written with adopted children and adult adoptees in mind, Coming Home to Self is a book that can help anyone who has experienced an early childhood trauma or feels the need to re-examine their life and who they are. From understanding basic trauma and the neurological consequences of trauma to step by step methods of healing, Verrier's book will help readers discover their true self, take responsibility for that self and discover their personal spiritual path.

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew

Author: Sherrie Eldridge
Publisher: Delta
ISBN: 0307570819
Format: PDF, Docs
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"Birthdays may be difficult for me." "I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family." "When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me." "I am afraid you will abandon me." The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame. With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he must grieve his loss now if he is to receive love fully in the future--that she needs honest information about her birth family no matter how painful the details may be--and that although he may choose to search for his birth family, he will always rely on you to be his parents. Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Being Adopted

Author: David M. Brodzinsky
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 9780385414265
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Recent studies have shown that being adopted can affect many aspects of adoptees' lives, from relationships with adoptive parents to bonds with their own children. Using their combined total of 55 years experience in clinical and research work with adoptees and their families, the authors use the voices of adoptees themselves to trace how adoption is experienced over a lifetime.

Coming Home to Self

Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
Publisher: Nancy Verrier
ISBN: 9780963648013
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This book is a must-read for adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, and those who live with, work with, and counsel them. It is also for anyone who believes that they are living an unauthentic life. This book explains the role of separation trauma in the life of adoptees and birth mothers and how that trauma affects the neurological system. It demonstrates how the inner, fearful child may be running the lives of adoptees. It shows how the meaning we give to events determines our beliefs and how those beliefs control our feelings, attitudes and behavior. It gives guidelines for discovering the authentic self and for becoming accountable for our impact on others. Reading this book should improve relationships, including reunions. It will help adoptive parents empathize with their children and teach them how to respond to their behavior and regulate their feelings. It will help professionals understand the issues specific to adoption and be better able to treat them. This book is about authenticity and accountability.

20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed

Author: Sherrie Eldridge
Publisher: Delta
ISBN: 0385341628
Format: PDF, Mobi
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From the author of the bestselling "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" comes an invaluable resource guide filled with practical advice to help adoptive parents form closer bonds with their children.

Adoption healing

Author: Joe Soll
Publisher: Joe Soll
ISBN:
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A unique book describing the coersion of pregnant women to surrender their babies to adoption, the personal holocaust suffered by them, and strategies for healing

Lost Found

Author: Betty Jean Lifton
Publisher: University of Michigan Press
ISBN: 047203328X
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Explores the obstacles and issues that adoptees, orphans, and foster children face when they have been separated from a parent or denied the right to know their origins