Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay

Author: Mira Kirshenbaum
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101128364
Format: PDF
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Mira Kirshenbaum (I Love You, But I Don't Trust You), an international bestselling author and world-renowned therapist, draws on years of counseling experience to lead readers through relationship ambivalence. A careful line of 36 questions and self-analysis techniques designed to get to the heart of relationship and marriage problems. This straightforward and practical advice is designed for newer and older relationships, and presents a plethora of information and experience in a clear, concise manner. .

Should I Stay or Should I Go

Author: Lundy Bancroft
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101478829
Format: PDF, Docs
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A guide to making the ultimate relationship decision from the author of Why Does He Do That? In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward—with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: • Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working • Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem • Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority • Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work From the Trade Paperback edition.

Uncoupling

Author: Diane Vaughan
Publisher: Vintage
ISBN: 0679730028
Format: PDF, ePub
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Now in trade paperback, the ground-breaking and carefully documented book that shows how couples come apart.

Should You Leave

Author: Peter D. Kramer
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 147673710X
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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In his phenomenal bestseller Listening to Prozac, Peter Kramer explored the makeup of the modern self. Now, in his superbly written new book, he focuses his intelligent, compassionate eye on the complexities of partnerships and why intimacy is so difficult for us. With the art of a novelist and the skill of a brilliant psychiatrist, Kramer addresses advice seekers struggling with such complex questions as: How do we choose our partners? How well do we know them? How do mood states affect our assessment of them and theirs of us? What does “working on a relationship” truly entail? When should we try to improve a relationship, and when should we leave? Equally at home with Shakespeare, Emerson, and Kierkegaard as it is with Freud and Jung, Should You Leave? is a literary tour de force from a uniquely insightful observer and a profoundly resonant and helpful approach to resolving dilemmas of the heart.

Coming Apart

Author: Daphne Rose Kingma
Publisher: Conari Press
ISBN: 9781609255466
Format: PDF
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"Kingma deals with love so directly...that Coming Apart brings immediate comfort to anyone in pain." -LA Weekly Next to the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship is the most painful experience most people will ever go through. Coming Apart is a first-aid kit for getting through the ending. It is a tool that will enable you to live through the end of your relationship with your self esteem intact. Daphne Rose Kingma, the undisputed expert on matters of the heart, explores the critical facets of relationship breakdowns:Love myths: why we are really in relationshipsThe life span of loveThe emotional and unconscious processes of partingHow to get through the endingHow to create a personal workbook for finding resolution Originally published in 1987 and continuously in print since then, with more than half a million copies sold, Coming Apart has been an important resource for hundreds of thousands of readers experiencing the pain and stress of a break-up. For anyone going through the ending of a relationship Kingma is a caring, sensitive guide. This re-packaged edition includes a new introduction by the author.

How to Know When It s Time to Go

Author: Lawrence Birnbach
Publisher: Sterling Publishing Company Incorporated
ISBN: 9781402766435
Format: PDF, Kindle
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"Provides ten steps to help you examine how serious the problems are in your marriage, what you might try to do to improve it, and, if that's not possible, whether it's time to get serious about divorce"--Cover.

Splitopia

Author: Wendy Paris
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476725535
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.” Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).

Contemplating Divorce

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1572245247
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Just as there are right and wrong reasons to marry, there are good and bad reasons to divorce. Some couples are quick to split because they are unwilling to devote the necessary effort to fixing their relationships or to understanding their partners, while others miss out on personal fulfillment by staying too long in unhealthy marriages. This insightful and practical guide, written by a therapist with nearly a decade of experience counseling those considering divorce, will help you evaluate your marriage to determine whether you should stay or go. Without bias toward or against the option of divorce, Contemplating Divorce includes helpful tools to guide you to the right decision. Use the tests and relationship evaluations to assess your level of fulfillment in your marriage Learn about the five types of needs happy marriages satisfy Find out how to fix 'problem areas' in your relationship Plan for the future, whether you decide to stay or move on This is a much-needed book. The anxiety in making a life-changing decision is sometimes overwhelming. It is of immense help to have a coach like Susan Pease Gadoua! -John Bradshaw, best-selling author of Homecoming and Creating Love Better than therapy! Pease Gadoua allows the reader who is contemplating any great change to process the pros and cons in the confines of his or her own heart and mind, leaving no chance for those on the fence to skip out on the truth. A must-read for any transition. -Joan Anderson, bestselling author of A Year by the Sea, An Unfinished Marriage, A Walk on the Beach, and The Second Journey Making an appointment to see a divorce lawyer doesn't mean that the person I am advising necessarily needs or wants a divorce. With Pease Gadoua's wise, thorough, and accessible book, Contemplating Divorce, at last there is a resource I can give to confused and unhappy clients who think the marriage may be over but can't decide whether the embers are truly dead or not. -Pauline H. Tesler, author of Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Law An exceptional and outstanding book for all those considering making the life-altering decision to divorce. Pease Gadoua offers profound personal insight and practical guidance that empowers adults to find clarity, overcome hurdles, and make the best choices for the future of their relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend Contemplating Divorce to men and women alike. -Helene Taylor, Esq., president and founder of TheModernWomansDivorceGuide.com

Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad

Author: Mira Kirshenbaum
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0380795779
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Once the relationship was healthy. And now it's in trouble. Rather than working unproductively, feeling confused, and grasping for tired solutions that seem complicated and irrelevant, do something about it. This book will show you how to sort through all the pain and confusion in your relationship, put your finger on exactly what's been causing all your troubles, and find the precise way to eliminate them. Psychotherapist and bestselling author Mira Kirshenbaum has identified ten Love Killers that cause all the painful and mysterious problems couples get into. By answering simple questions, you'll be able to diagnose your individual case and identify the lover killer for your specific problems. For every love killer, there is a corresponding Love Builder -- a prescription tailor-made for your particular problem that can help heal your relationship. These solutions grew out of fourteen years of pioneering research into ways couples solve their problems, delving into every aspect of life together, from sex to money, from affection to conversatiion, from watching TV to planning for the future -- all based on what happens to real love between real people amid the stress and distraction of real life. If you're longing for the closeness and passion that once was yours, find out now what's wrong with your relationship, and exactly how to fix it -- and make your love better than ever.

If You re in My Office It s Already Too Late

Author: James J. Sexton
Publisher: Henry Holt and Company
ISBN: 1250130786
Format: PDF, Docs
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Hard-hitting divorce lawyer James Sexton shares his insights and wisdom from the front lines of divorce to keep you out of his office and improve your relationship. If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this. After dealing with more than a thousand clients whose marriages have dissolved over everything from an ill-advised threesome with the nanny to the uneven division of carpool duties, he also knows all of the what-not-to-dos for couples who want to build—and consistently work to preserve—a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Described by former clients as a “courtroom gunslinger” and “the sociopath you want on your side,” Sexton tells the unvarnished truth about relationships, diving straight into the most common marital problems. These usually derive from dishonest—or nonexistent—communication. Even when the alleged reason for separation is one spouse’s new “personal trainer,” there’s likely a communication problem that predates the fitness kick. Symptom and root cause get confused all the time. Sexton has spent his career working with spouses-to-be-no-longer. Reverse engineering a relationship can help to identify and fix what does not work. Ever feel like you’re holding back criticism of your spouse because you just can’t have that fight right now? Sexton will tell you to “Hit Send Now.” Maybe you aren’t as adventurous as you used to be, or need some "you time," but for some reason it seems weird or exhausting to change up the routine now. Sexton knows where that mentality leads and offers viable alternative paths to take. Though he deals constantly with the heartbreak of others, he still believes in romance and the transformative power of love. This book is his opportunity to use what he has learned to help couples that aren’t so far gone get back on track.